Today, I joined the Full Moon ceremony call with Alberto Villoldo of Four Winds, part of my Shaman21 membership. He spoke about health and fear—something I’ve been consciously working with for the past two years. Alberto shared something that just stuck with me, something like: fear creates stress, and that stress creates disease. While not a new concept, it landed differently this time—more personal, more urgent—especially as I move through the Trinity Mystic business model overhaul.
Feeling the resonance, I turned to the Rewiring Fear & Anxiety World Summit. Dr. Jud (Judson Brewer, MD, PhD), whom I’ve seen speak in person, emphasized the power of empowered curiosity—a practice deeply rooted in mindfulness. Britt Frank, LSCSW, SEP, offered another profound insight: anxiety often arises without a clear object and is frequently rooted in unresolved pain from the past. She encouraged us to drop the question “Why?”, explaining that the brain can’t access logical analysis during moments of heightened anxiety.
As I examined the recent waves of anxiety I’ve experienced, the emotional charge began to loosen. With curiosity, I could identify the root fear—what was underneath the surface. I practiced turning inward with curiosity. I asked myself: What is this anxiety trying to show me?
One trigger was updating my booking and payment systems. It required a complete overhaul—lots of choices, rising fees, and the pressure to get it right. I found myself spiraling into overwhelm. So I paused. I breathed. I asked not “Why is this so hard?” but “How do I feel right now?”
The Truth About My Anxiety
That small shift revealed the real issue: not money, not effort—but fear.
Fear of making the wrong choice.
Wasting time and energy was another fear.
But most of all? Fear of failing.
Once I named it, something shifted. I was facing fear and it wasn’t as scary as it was when it was unknown. The very next day, I made decisions and moved forward—credit card points and all.
To help loosen the grip of fear, I’ve also been practicing visualizing failure. Really feeling into what it means to fail. My first Trinity Mystic website didn’t reach the people I hoped it would. My offerings didn’t land. My voice didn’t resonate. In a way, I already failed. And yet—I’m still here.
And because I’ve already walked through it once, I know I can do it again.
Another powerful insight from the summit was about language. Britt Frank pointed out how we often use violent or debilitating terms: “paralyzed by fear,” “anxiety attack.” What if we reframed this? What if fear and anxiety weren’t enemies, but messengers? Invitations to explore our inner terrain. Indicators that something important is calling for our attention.
So that’s the shift I’m making. I’m changing my relationship with fear and anxiety. I’m not trying to eliminate them—I’m listening. I’m honoring them. I’m letting them guide me toward deeper understanding.
What if your anxiety wasn’t a weakness, but a doorway?
If fear was asking you to grow, not shrink, would you listen?
This is the path I’m walking now.
How is your relationship to fear and anxiety?
